Aunt Jemima Re-boot

Bed(bad) looks take hold

The images of Aunt Jemima and the non-existent “Mammie” images, use to embarrass me and scores of other young black girls in our day. There was a time when we wore bed caps and night scarves to protect our hair, that secret of how we looked stayed in the house. What is going on with black women that we have made our feminine mystery so public? Not sure but it wreaks of...I don't care. Most people will not understand that they are BED TIME styles…but will interpret them through a lens of the ghetto fabulous.

Let me tell you, these looks DO NOT farewell in the street, the store, the bank, or garage sale. Certain feminine mysteries should be kept at home!!  They are unattractive looks because it says…I don’t give a **** about how I look.  The scarves and bed caps are what they are, remove them before leaving the house. If you need to protect your hair, then by all means a pretty fashionable scarf worn in a fashionable way, will make a difference.

There are so many hats and scarves that can be worn nicely with a good pair of earrings… to just present yourself to the world as some kind of understatement will only do a disservice to you. Many people will not take you seriously for who you are and will treat you accordingly.

Here are some examples below:

Sugar Cookies and Chocolate Kisses

Sugar Cookies and Chocolate Kisses... 

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ne may say I have a sweet tooth just by the labeling of this blog post.  But it’s not quite exactly what the post is about.  The never-ending discussion about black women and their singleness continues even after the so-called end of the world. In my own thinking we can be some very stubborn to death women when it comes to certain issues and no matter how you show them, they will stay in the burning house until it burns down.  Wisdom would dictate if there aren’t any fish or enough fish in a small pond or lake…move to another lake where the fish are biting.  Logic seems to be thrown out of the window when it comes down to black men and their picking in women and their seemingly enormous collective choice not to marry (I wouldn’t either if I were getting the milk for free!!)  Better yet, black women have been in the position of chasing without understanding they are chasing and the men just sit back and become ever more narcissistic, like some desirable commodity placed high in market value. Let the truth be told black women do this. What we need to understand is this need to place the men high is a masculine trait among the women. It is YOU who should be placed in a position of being protected, provided and desired.

This is where some of you get to itching and squirming, as if truth becomes an eczema rash to your conscience…have you not considered looking outside of your race to what *is* available? Men who are willing to marry you, provide and protect and yes find you quite desirable.  There are some women of certain demographics who have not even so much as dated a white male who will say, “But I prefer my black man.” Let me ask you a question.  According to black men’s actions…not his words, does he prefer YOU?  Does he have the same allegiance to you as you have to him? Too many of us listen to words only, without considering what they have actually been doing…or maybe what he lacks in doing. It is like someone saying they prefer chocolate cookies over sugar cookies but never tried a sugar cookie in their life! So the question remains…how do you know you wouldn’t like a sugar cookie? You never tried even one!  Is that wisdom? I highly doubt it. But more than likely the chocolate cookies have plenty of times been eaten by white women LOL. 

Perhaps dear ladies you should take a second look in the bakery store.

Chanukah: Not a Jewish Christmas

A Curious Pattern

Hanukkah begins in the evening of Saturday, December 8, 2012, and ends in the evening of Sunday, December 16, 2012.


Yes I am celebrating Chanukah/Hanukah. 

What is Chanukah exactly? In short, the origin of chanukah begins in the times of greek occupation of Judea. Antiochus Ephaninies oppressed the judeans and tried to force them to accept the Greek way of life. Some jews accepted but many more were appalled. This began a war by the inhabitants themselves started by those who would eventually call themselves Makkabi or Maccabee. The word Makkabi in Hebrew means "Hammer". So the order of the day was to smash the powers that be. When they worn the war and the Temple was returned to them. It took eight days to cleanse the temple. (Legend says that oil burned for eight days. Hence the eight branched hanukiah many are familiar with.)

It has become a tradition over time to give gifts during the eight day period. Although it falls around the same time frame as Christmas, it has nothing to do with it and therefore is not a "Jewish Christmas" as some assume. Chanukah was kept to remember those who wanted to remain in Truth.

Here are The Maccabeats with a song called "Hanukah"